Dating a man who is shorter
It's a part of myself I've fought, manipulated, resented, and struggled to embrace for over half of my life.
So when people inevitably criticize me for taking men's comments about my height too personally, I'm the first to agree. And I haven't worked this hard to love my body for some guy to nonchalantly tell me how to feel about it over a gin and tonic.
So, contrary to popular belief, my dating life on the whole has actually been more successful after transition than it was before, as a cis gay man.
Back when I identified as a gay man, my short stature was a liability, since the mainstream gay world is into tall, muscular guys.
That's low-key why I always feel the need to have my hair with a bit of body — to make up for lost ground.
That's not to say that tall men are better, but that my own physical size didn't restrict me to any specific height range within the straight male population.
And as I got older, more and more men I dated would comment on it: "I love how I can pick you up," "You're so cute and little," and even, "I'm only dating Chaya-sized girls from now on." I got rid of him shortly after.